Rug Beater

(This picture thing is really starting to annoy me!!!)
My friend, I mentioned a while back whom I've known for 4 years, came over for dinner last night. I made dinner and he fixed my IPOD and we had a very pleasant evening. He then noticed three things I had hanging on my fireplace. One was an old fashioned, brass bed warmer, one looks like a brass sauce pan with a very long handle and the third is this. A metal, heart shaped rug beater. But, he pointed out, "I'm sure it can be used for other things..." and we laughed. But if I had a brain in my head, I would have looked at him, smiled and said, "Is that an offer?"
A few weeks ago, we were texting. He was home alone but too tired to come out and as we were texting, I said something a little flip and he texted back "Watch ur mouth or I'll spank u...U know, some other time when I'm not so tired..." and then I proceeded to tease him about being old. He texts or chats these flirty comments about spanking, which he knows I like, but then when we're together, it's strictly platonic. Last night was the first in person reference he had made. And I feel like I blew it. At the same time, its only been 3 months or so since his long term girlfriend passed away. There are times he is clearly grieving and times he appears to be okay (such as last night). I have said all along that if we are meant to be together or to date or to whatever, it will happen when its meant to. But it gets infuriating when he makes these comments but then never follows through. At the same time, I'm scared he'll make an advance and then regret it and resent me if its too soon. So I wait, and I hope, and now I look at my rug beater (its not red but the picture on my phone made it look so) and smile now.
And on a side note, no Todd I would NOT like to try out the rug beater when you're in town. I had this feeling you might offer... :)